I Forgot to Eat the Damn Cake

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I DID eat this cake.

A while back I wrote about my frustration when someone did that thing I now call the Dance of the Dessert, that “should I?/I shouldn’t!” thing and then they do and then they loudly proclaim their guilt to anyone in the nearby vicinity. Seriously: yawn.

Well, something completely the opposite of that happened to me the other day: I forgot to eat the cake. And until now, I didn’t even bother to talk about it.

You see, this is the kind of thing that might happen when you give up dieting and dieting mentality and embrace internally regulated, totally normal eating. You might do things like accidentally forget to eat some cake, even if you intended to. And you don’t feel that bad about it.

In my dieting days, I was definitely the person to worry about eating the cake (though I would still eat it because IT WAS CAKE). I was also the person to sneak back into the break room later on and cut off another “thin” slice and eat it furtively…and then cut off just another “tiny” slice because I I just couldn’t stop…and then I’d scoop up the icing dregs off the edges of the plate and lick the knife clean (apologies to all those who got to the cake after me…it was probably decimated). Ironically, I was the thinnest I’d ever been…but I still felt so wretched for eating that cake. More restriction would follow until the next cake or doughnut or brownie or tart or…

Last week reminded me how far I’d come since then. Two co-workers had birthdays, and therefore there were two cakes being served up during our weekly team meeting. I had just eaten breakfast and so wasn’t really in the mood for cake. I also have a sensitive tummy and I know putting too much in there first thing in the morning will be misery all day. So I declined the cake and planned to come back for some in the afternoon when I like to have a snack and would have a nice appetite for it – there was plenty and I was confident there would be some left by then.

The day wore on. I was out of the office during lunch so I didn’t get to the break room to see if there was cake left to have as dessert. I got back to the office and at mid afternoon had my current favorite snack of banana with Nutella (because Nutella is awesome). I went home.

Then it hit me…I forgot to go back and get a slice of cake. Damn.

It was completely my intention earlier that day to partake in cake, but in reality, I clearly wasn’t feeling it. And that is the wonderful thing about not being underfed or food-restricted all the time – you don’t eat cake just because it’s there and you’re starving. I also know there will be cake again, and that I will probably have some, which is why missing it this time wasn’t such a big deal.

I don’t tell you this story to brag about my internally regulated eating skills. I feel neither good nor bad about forgetting to get the cake. It was a neutral incident, so I don’t feel smug about it as I might have in my food-restricted days. My behaviors do not make me thin. They simply make me relaxed around food.

I’m telling you this because if you are still feeling crazy around food and it’s getting a bit much for you, I want you to know there is hope. If you are struggling with getting to normal eating, I want you to know that it does happen, and it’s a wonderful relief. Internally regulated eating is that happy place where you get to have your cake and eat it too…or not, if you simply don’t feel like it.

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7 thoughts on “I Forgot to Eat the Damn Cake

  1. Ocean Bream July 25, 2016 / 2:20 pm

    Well I thoroughly enjoyed this. Unfortunately my problem is overeating, not even restricting, just EATING for the sake of eating even if I am full.

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    • GlenysO July 25, 2016 / 4:00 pm

      That’s called superfluous eating – non-diet nutrition also addresses that. Maybe I’ll write a post about this in the future.

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  2. jodietitian July 26, 2016 / 5:43 am

    Good story! Sweets definitely lose their appeal when they are not restricted. It strikes me funny when people look at you like you are crazy when you decline dessert. The reality is, if you are not in the mood for something sweet, or any food for that matter, why would you eat it? (but next time wrap up a slice for later!)

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    • GlenysO July 26, 2016 / 1:10 pm

      I think if I thought the cake looked fantastic enough I would have grabbed a slice to keep for later…but someone had put fruit on it. Nothing ruins a cake for me like fruit on it. Fruit is a stand-alone snack in my world! haha

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  3. Sarah July 26, 2016 / 12:50 pm

    What a great story! I am definitely in the “dance” phase right now so it’s refreshing to hear that one day I might be able to forget to have dessert. Thanks so much for sharing!

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  4. sixmonthstosanity August 4, 2016 / 4:55 am

    “Dance of the Dessert”!!! Oh thank you thank you for giving me a name for one of my absolute biggest pet peeves. It really disturbs me how common this is and how much it normalizes (and maybe even glamorizes?) our society’s diet mentality. Stop it, everybody! Thanks for a great post.

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